Is it permissible for me to go out with my ex-husband in the company of our children on occasion, so that they can be together with both parents like other children. That is done is public places. Also, he does not pray – is the money that he spends on them haraam?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If a man has
issued the last of three talaaqs (divorces), or he has divorced her once or
twice and her ‘iddah has ended, then she becomes a stranger (non-mahram) to
him, and it is not permissible for her to be alone with him or to touch her
or to look at her.
The
relationship of an ex-husband with his ex-wife is like his relationship with
any other non-mahram woman. The fact that they have children does not
justify his looking at her, being alone with her or travelling with her. He
can go out with his children without her being there, or she can be present
with one of her mahrams, without doing any of the haraam things that we have
mentioned.
Shaykh
al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
A
thrice-divorced woman is a stranger (non-mahram) to the man like any other
non-mahram woman, so the man does not have the right to be alone with her,
just as he does not have the right to be alone with any non-mahram woman.
And he cannot see of her what he cannot see of any non-mahram woman, and
there are no special rulings concerning the relationship between them (other
than the rulings governing all interactions between non-mahrams).
Al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 3/349.
With regard to accepting
what the divorced husband spends on his children, there is no reason not to
do so, even if he does not pray. She should remind her children of the
importance of advising their father to pray, and may Allaah guide him
through this advice.
If the mother fears that her children may be adversely affected by their kaafir father or that he may lead them to do something that Allaah has forbidden, it is not permissible for her to allow them to go out with him, because their going out with him is causing them harm.
And Allaah knows best.
