How can one explain the status of Maryam in Islam and her relation to Muslim women being stronger to that of Christian women.

Praise
be to Allah

Maryam the daughter of ‘Imraan (may Allah be pleased with
her) is one of the devoted worshippers and righteous women. She is mentioned
in the Book of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and in the Sunnah of
His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), where she is
described as possessing the characteristics of the people of faith. She was
a believer whose faith, affirmation of Allah’s Oneness and obedience to Him
were perfect, and whoever is like that, the Muslims are closer to him. She
also has nothing to do with the ascription of partners to Allah or with the
Christians who worship her, just as her son ‘Eesa (Jesus – peace be upon
him) has nothing to do with them either, and he will declare that disavowal
before all witnesses on the Day of Resurrection. 

The closeness of the Muslims to her is apparent from the
following:

Firstly: 

The Christians have taken her and her son as two gods besides
Allah, and they worship them besides Allah, whereas the Muslims worship only
One God, and those who believe in Allah alone are closer to one another.
Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):


“And
(remember) when Allah will say (on the Day of Resurrection): ‘O ‘Eesa
(Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary)! Did you say unto men: Worship me and my
mother as two gods besides Allah?’ He will say: ‘Glory be to You! It was not
for me to say what I had no right (to say)’”


[al-Maa’idah 5:116]


“Surely,
disbelievers are those who said: ‘Allah is the third of the three (in a
Trinity).’ But there is no ilah (god) (none who has the right to be
worshipped) but One Ilah (God -Allah). And if they cease not from what they
say, verily, a painful torment will befall the disbelievers among them”


[al-Maa’idah 5:73]

Secondly: 

The Quran describes Maryam as a true slave of Allah, who was
humble and obedient to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Allah, may He be
exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):


“And
(remember) when the angels said: ‘O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allah has chosen
you, purified you (from polytheism and disbelief), and chosen you above the
women of the ‘Aalameen (mankind and jinns) (of her lifetime).


‘O Mary! Submit yourself with obedience to your Lord (Allah,
by worshipping none but Him Alone) and prostrate yourself, and Irka‘i (bow
down etc.) along with Ar-Raki‘oon (those who bow down etc.)”


[Aal ‘Imraan 3:42, 43]

This is a description of the believers and Muslims, as Allah,
may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and give Zakat, and
Irka

(i.e. bow down or submit yourselves with obedience to Allah) along with
Ar-Raki‘oon”


[al-Baqarah 2:43]

And Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):


“Therefore
the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands),
and guard in the husbands absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g.
their chastity, their husbands property, etc.)”


[an-Nisa’ 4:34]


“It may be if
he divorced you (all) that his Lord will give him instead of you, wives
better than you, Muslims (who submit to Allah), believers, obedient to
Allah, turning to Allah in repentance, worshipping Allah sincerely, fasting
or emigrants (for Allah’s sake), previously married and virgins”


[at-Tahreem 66:5]

Thirdly: 

The Muslims respect Maryam the daughter of ‘Imraan, and
believe in what is mentioned in the Holy Quran about her, namely her purity
and innocence of what the enemies of Allah accused her of; they believe that
Allah made her and her son a sign to all mankind, and a testimony to His
Oneness, Lordship and might. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation
of the meaning):


“(Remember)
when the angels said: ‘O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allah gives you the glad
tidings of a Word (“Be!” – and he was! i.e. ‘Eesa (Jesus) the son of Maryam
(Mary)) from Him, his name will be the Messiah ‘Eesa (Jesus), the son of
Maryam (Mary), held in honour in this world and in the Hereafter, and will
be one of those who are near to Allah’”


[Aal ‘Imraan 3:45]


“Because of
their breaking the covenant, and of their rejecting the Ayat (proofs,
evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allah, and of their
killing the Prophets unjustly, and of their saying: “Our hearts are wrapped
(with coverings, i.e. we do not understand what the Messengers say)” – nay,
Allah has set a seal upon their hearts because of their disbelief, so they
believe not but a little.


And because of their (Jews) disbelief and uttering against
Maryam (Mary ) a grave false charge (that she has committed illegal sexual
intercourse)”


[an-Nisa’ 4:155, 156]


“The Messiah
‘Eesa (Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary), was (no more than) a Messenger of Allah
and His Word, (‘Be!’ – and he was) which He bestowed on Maryam (Mary) and a
spirit (Rooh) created by Him”


[an-Nisa’ 4:171]


“The Messiah
(‘Eesa (Jesus)), son of Maryam (Mary), was no more than a Messenger; many
were the Messengers that passed away before him. His mother (Maryam (Mary))
was a Siddiqah (i.e. she believed in the words of Allah and His Books). They
both used to eat food (as any other human being, while Allah does not eat)”


[al-Maa’idah 5:75]


“And We made
the son of Maryam (Mary) and his mother as a sign”


[al-Mu’minoon 23:50]

Fourthly: 

She and her son are a criterion that distinguishes between
people of faith and people of shirk. Whoever believes in them as two
obedient slaves of Allah is one of the people of faith, which is the case
with the followers of Islam. Whoever believes that both of them, or that her
son, possesses anything of divinity is one of the people of shirk, which is
the case with the Christians. 

Al-Bukhaari (3435) and Muslim (28) narrated from ‘Ubaadah
(may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: Whoever testifies that there is no god except Allah
alone, with no partner or associate, and that Muhammad is His slave and
Messenger, and that ‘Eesa is the slave and Messenger of Allah, His Word
which He bestowed upon Maryam and a Spirit created by Him, and that Paradise
is true and that Hell is true, Allah will admit him to Paradise on the basis
of his good deeds.” 

Ahmad (1742) narrated that the Negus sent for Ja‘far ibn Abi
Taalib and his companions (may Allah be pleased with them) who had migrated
to Ethiopia, asking them about the Messiah (peace be upon him): What did
they say about him? 

Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The people
gathered and said to one another: What will you say about ‘Eesa when he asks
you about him? They said: By Allah, we will say about him what Allah says,
and what our Prophet brought, come what may. 

When they entered upon him (the Negus), he said to them: What
do you say about ‘Eesa ibn Maryam? Ja‘far ibn Abi Taalib said to him: We say
concerning him what our Prophet taught us: he is the slave of Allah and His
Messenger, a spirit created by Him and His Word which He bestowed upon
Maryam the Virgin. 

She (Umm Salamah) said: The Negus put his hand on the ground
and picked up a twig, then he said: ‘Eesa ibn Maryam never differed from
what you say, not even as much as this twig. 

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh as-Seerah
 

Fifthly: 

Among the Muslims, she is the perfect Muslim woman, one of
the most virtuous of the women of Paradise, as al-Bukhaari (3411) and Muslim
(2431) narrated that Abu Moosa (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Many
men have attained perfection but no women have attained perfection except
Aasiyah the wife of Pharaoh and Maryam bint ‘Imraan…” 

And Ahmad (2668) narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The
best of the women of Paradise are: Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid, Faatimah bint
Muhammad, Aasiyah bint Muzaahim the wife of Pharaoh, and Maryam the daughter
of ‘Imraan.”

Classed as saheeh by the commentators on al-Musnad

But among the Christians she is worshipped besides Allah. 

Undoubtedly she (may Allah be pleased with her) and her son
(peace be upon him) would not approve of the corrupt beliefs of the people
of shirk concerning them; rather they approve of the beliefs of the people
of Islam. Therefore she and her son are closer to the people of Islam than
to the people of shirk among the Christians. 

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has told us that on
the Day of Resurrection the Prophet of Allah ‘Eesa ibn Maryam (Jesus son of
Mary – peace be upon him) will disavow the shirk of those who associate him
with Allah and exaggerate about him and his mother. Let us reflect upon that
sublime exchange that will take place between the Lord of Glory and majesty
and His slave and Messenger ‘Eesa ibn Maryam (peace be upon him). Allah, may
He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): 


“And
(remember) when Allah will say (on the Day of Resurrection): ‘O ‘Eesa
(Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary)! Did you say unto men: Worship me and my
mother as two gods besides Allah?’ He will say: ‘Glory be to You! It was not
for me to say what I had no right (to say). Had I said such a thing, You
would surely have known it. You know what is in my innerself though I do not
know what is in Yours, truly, You, only You, are the All-Knower of all that
is hidden and unseen.


‘Never did I say to them aught except what You (Allah) did
command me to say: Worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord. And I was a witness
over them while I dwelt amongst them, but when You took me up, You were the
Watcher over them, and You are a Witness to all things. (This is a great
admonition and warning to the Christians of the whole world).


‘If You punish them, they are Your slaves, and if You forgive
them, verily You, only You are the All-Mighty, the All-Wise.’


Allah will say: ‘This is a Day on which the truthful will
profit from their truth: theirs are Gardens under which rivers flow (in
Paradise) – they shall abide therein forever. Allah is pleased with them and
they with Him. That is the great success (Paradise).’


To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth
and all that is therein, and He is Able to do all things”


[al-Maa’idah 5:116-120]

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