I am a thirty-one-year-old woman, never previously married. I have known that I have cysts on my ovaries since I was fourteen years old, when it led to my menstrual cycle not being regular. Every time I went to the doctor, he told me that proper treatment would begin after marriage, in sha Allah, with medication that would help to stimulate the ovaries. This is a condition which affects approximately twenty percent of women of childbearing age, and many of them are able to have children, by Allah’s leave, after they get married and go through treatment. The only symptom I am suffering from is irregularity in the menstrual cycle. Do I have to inform a suitor before marriage?
Praise
be to Allah
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is regarded as a common
gynaecological disorder, the rate of which varies from one country to
another, but on average it affects between 5 to 10 percent of women, but
this rate is increasing. This illness may lead to delay in conceiving or
repeated miscarriages, and it may cause other symptoms such as irregular
periods, weight gain, high blood pressure, and the growth of coarse hair in
various parts of the body.
See:
http://www.sehha.com/womenissues/pco.htm
http://www.6abib.com/a-412.htm
Therefore if there is a marriage proposal and this illness is
present, it is essential to inform the suitor of it, because any defect or
illness that will lead to missing out on the aims of marriage, such as
physical pleasure, compassion and love, or may be off-putting to the other
spouse, must be disclosed, and it is prohibited to conceal it.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
By analogy, any defect that would put the other spouse off
and would lead to missing out on the aims of marriage, such as compassion
and love, requires that the other party be informed and given the choice (of
whether to proceed with the marriage or not).
End quote from Zaad al-Ma‘aad (5/166).
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah (19/15):
If the girl has a problem in the uterus, or with her
menstrual cycle, that requires treatment and may delay conception, should
the suitor be informed of that?
Answer: If this problem is something temporary, the like of
which happens to women then passes, then it is not essential to inform the
suitor of it. But if this problem comes under the heading of illnesses that
will have some impact, or is not something minor and temporary, then if it
is still ongoing at the time of a marriage proposal, and she has not
recovered from it, then her guardian must inform the suitor of that. End
quote.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez Aal ash-Shaykh, Shaykh Saalih ibn
Fawzaan al-Fawzaan, Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd
See also the answer to question no. 43496
And Allah knows best.
