Missing a Deceased Person

We do not think there is anything wrong with
missing a person who has died, even though this implies wishing to meet him
and be close to him, although one is alive and the other person is dead, and
this feeling serves no real purpose. But if we say that we wish we could
meet the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and the
Sahabah/Companions (may Allah be pleased with them), and the Tabi’een
(Successors) and the scholars, this feeling is the hope of meeting them in
Paradise, The person who wishes that he could meet these great people has to
strive hard so that his Lord will be pleased with him and will admit him to
Paradise with them, so that his longing will be fulfilled and will come to
pass. This is the good result of longing to see the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) and the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with
them). This is the way in which the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them)
missed the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) after he died. For example, Muslim narrated
that Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “After the Messenger of
Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) died, Abu Bakr said to
‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), ‘Let us go and visit Umm Ayman
as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to
visit her. When they came to her, she wept, and they said, ‘Why are you
crying? What is with Allah is better for His Messenger (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him).’ She said, ‘I am not weeping because I do not know
that what is with Allah is better for His Messenger (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him). Rather I am weeping because the Revelation from heaven
has come to an end.’ That moved them deeply and they began to weep with
her.”

(Muslim, 2454)

But if this missing a deceased friend or
relative makes a person feel grief and despair – and sometimes distress –
and makes him object to the will and decree of Allah, then this should not
be allowed and should be denounced and forbidden, because this may lead to
the development of bad characteristics which Islam strives to keep its
followers away from. The Muslim should be happy and content with the will
and decree of Allah and His rule and law.

 And Allah knows best.