Bearing with patience a delay in getting married

Praise
be to Allaah.

First of all, before answering this question
I would like to point out that all matters are in the hand of Allaah;
no benefit comes and no harm is warded off except by His help. The One
Who relieves distress is Allaah, so if anything befalls a person he
must turn to Allaah and beseech Him and call upon Him, whether that
has to do with attaining something desired or removing something disliked. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And whatever of blessings and good things
you have, it is from Allaah. Then, when harm touches you, unto Him you
cry aloud for help”

[al-Nahl 16:53] 

“Is not He (better than your gods) Who
responds to the distressed one, when he calls on Him, and Who removes
the evil, and makes you inheritors of the earth, generations after generations?
Is there any ilaah (god) with Allaah? Little is that you remember!”

[al-Naml 27:62] 

Allaah is the One to Whom the slave turns.
When a person turns to Him with sincerity and humility, acknowledging
his need for Him, and his food, drink, clothing and shelter are all
good (i.e., from halaal sources), then he may expect Allaah to respond.
This applies to all kinds of du’aa’. 

Then we should note that if a person
calls upon Allaah and He does not respond, then either Allaah is storing
that up for him [for the Hereafter], or He is warding off from him some
evil that is greater than what was asked for. But he should not despair
and give up calling upon Allaah, for Allaah loves those who persist
in du’aa’ and who await His response with certain faith. For Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad)
concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge).
I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without
any mediator or intercessor)”

[al-Baqarah 2:186] 

He should seek out the times when prayer
is answered. One of these times is the last third of the night. The
Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Our Lord descends
to the lowest heaven when there is one third of the night left, and
He says, ‘Who will call upon Me, that I may answer? Who will ask of
Me, that I may give to him? Who will seek My forgiveness, that I may
forgive him?’ – until the dawn comes.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7494;
Muslim, 758) 

Similarly: “The last hour of Friday –
there is no Muslim slave who stands and prays and calls upon Allaah
at that time, but Allaah will grant that to him.” (narrated by al-Bukhaari,
935; Muslim, 852) 

Or from the time when the imaam comes
out on Friday until the prayer ends. 

Another of these times is the interval
between the adhaan and iqaamah, as the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Du’aa’ made between
the adhaan and iqaamah will not be refused.” (narrated by al-Tirmidhi,
212; Abu Dawood, 521; Ahmad, 3/119. al-Tirmidhi said, (it is) a saheeh
hasan hadeeth). 

Among the situations (when du’aa’ is
answered) is when a person is prostrating. The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “With regard to sujood,
offer lots of du’aa’ then, for it is more likely that you will receive
a response.” (Narrated by Muslim, 479). Another occasion is after saying
the final tashahhud (in prayer) and before saying the salaam. The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Then let him say
whatever du’aa’ he wants.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim). 

This is what I wanted to say before answering
this specific question. 

With regard to the answer to this particular
question, this woman has to have patience and seek reward with Allaah.
She should realize that all matters are in the hand of Allaah and that
the delay in getting married may be better for her and it may ultimately
lead to something good that Allaah has prepared for her. She should
be optimistic and expect good things to happen. If you feel some distress
or waswaas (insinuating whispers from the Shaytaan), then increase your
dhikr (remembrance of Allaah), seek refuge in Allaah from the accursed
Shaytaan, and focus on  worship and other good deeds, until your
distress is eased. 

Also, pray the well known du’aa’ for
relief of anxiety and distress (“Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibnu ‘abdika
ibnu ‘amatika, naasiyati bi yadika maadin fiyya hukmuka (O Allaah,
I am Your slave, son of Your slave and son of Your maidservant. My forelock
is in Your hand. Your command over me is forever executed…)”). A woman
should say, “Allaahumma inni amatuka bintu ‘abdika bintu amatika
naasiyati bi yadika maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka
bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika
aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi
‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aan al-‘azeem rabee’a qalbi, wa noora sadri
wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi (O Allaah, I am Your maidservant,
daughter of Your slave, daughter of Your maidservant. My forelock is
in Your hand. You command over me is forever executed and Your decree
over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You
have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You have taught
to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the
unseen with You, that You make the Holy Qur’aan the life of my heart
and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release
for my anxiety).”

(Narrated by Ahmad, 1/452, 391; Ibn Hibbaan,
3372; al-Haakim, 1/509. classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah
al-Saheehah, 199). 

And there are other du’aa’s which have
been narrated from the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). This will relieve you of
the distress and anxiety that you are suffering. We ask Allaah to keep
you and us safe and sound. And Allaah is the Source of strength.