I am a converted Muslim, my husband had been asked several times by his brother to have a drink with him and his friends. I couldn’t confront him for the first time ’cause I don’t want him to get upset. Until one day, I did asked him why he drinks (beer or whisky). His reason was,

1. I am the man of the house, I’ll drink whenever I want;

2. I cannot say “NO” to my brother;

3. I need to socialize with them for connection and job promotion purposes (since the group he went with have higher positions where his working);

4. As long as I know to control myself even if I’m drinking and I am not doing anything bad. I couldn’t imagine a Muslim man giving me this reasons. Please give me your opinion on this matter.


Praise be to Allaah Who has guided you to Islam; we ask Him
to make you steadfast in Islam and to complete His blessing upon you. 

Undoubtedly alcohol is haraam and is a major sin. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe!
Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), and gambling, and Al‑Ansaab
[stone altars for sacrifices to idols, jinn, etc], and Al‑Azlaam (arrows for
seeking luck or decision) are an abomination of Shaytaan’s (Satan’s)
handiwork. So avoid (strictly all) that (abomination) in order that you may
be successful.

Shaytaan (Satan) wants only to excite enmity and hatred
between you with intoxicants (alcoholic drinks) and gambling, and hinder you
from the remembrance of Allaah and from As‑Salaah (the prayer). So, will you
not then abstain?”

[al-Maa’idah 5:90-91] 

It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik said: “The Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed ten people in
connection with alcohol: the one who presses [the grapes, etc], the one for
whom that is done, the one who drinks it, the one who carries it, the one to
whom it is carried, the one who pours it, the one who sells it, the one who
consumes its price, the one who buys it, and the one for whom it is
bought.” 

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1259; Ibn Maajah, 3381. Classed as
saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, no. 1041). 

It is not permissible for your husband to speak in this
manner. This is not the response of a Muslim who must accept as forbidden
that which Allaah has forbidden. It is not permissible for him to put
obedience to his brother above obedience to Allaah, or to anger Allaah by
pleasing his brother. If he adheres to the commands of Allaah, Allaah will
protect him from his brother, but if he angers Allaah by giving precedence
to pleasing his brother, Allaah will leave him to his brother. It was
narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever
pleases Allaah by angering the people, Allaah will be sufficient for him.
But whoever angers Allaah by pleasing the people, Allaah will leave him to
the people.”

(Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh, 1/115; classed
as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 2311) 

He can tell everyone – not just his brother – “No, this
action is haraam.” 

Socializing with them for work purposes does not justify
drinking alcohol. His saying that he is not doing anything wrong is very
strange indeed. What does he call his drinking? Can we expect that his
socializing with his brother and his friends does not involve anything other
than alcohol? It is well known that such people will have women with them,
and they will listen to music and ignore the prayers. All of these are major
sins. 

You have to persist in advising him, keep on doing so and do
not get tired of it. Look for someone whose advice will have an effect on
him. 

Make a lot of du’aa’ asking that he be guided. We ask Allaah
to guide us all to that which He loves and which pleases Him.

 And Allaah knows best.