When getting married, does one have to inform the other of defects such as premature ejaculation? I have such and other problems that relate to premature ejaculation. Do I tell her privately? This is embarrassing and I do not know how I tell this to the one I want to marry. How would anyone want to marry such and how would the marriage last? I have a strong desire and fear I would commit sin, so what do I do?

Praise
be to Allah

These sexual problems and illnesses that some people may
suffer from before marriage may be divided into two categories when it comes
to the issue of whether or not it is obligatory to inform the other party of
them:

There is one category of which the other party must be
informed, which refers to those sicknesses that will have an impact on
married life, and because of which there will be problems and shortcomings
in fulfilling marital duties, and which have an impact on the basic
objectives of marriage such as physical pleasure, producing offspring and
the like, as well as problems which may require lengthy treatment or may be
chronic and the doctors cannot find of cure for them, such as incurable
diseases like AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhoea and sterility, and diseases that
are usually found off-putting and repulsive.

And there is another category that does not have to be
disclosed, which is matters that do not usually affect married life and do
not cause people to miss out on the basic objectives of marriage, such as
those kinds of diseases that may occur but usually disappear with treatment,
and symptoms that usually happen to young people.

What appears to be the case is that premature ejaculation and
similar issues fall under the second category, because it is something that
usually affects young newlyweds because of the intensity of desire, but with
the passage of time, as they become accustomed to having intercourse, and
with medical advice and using appropriate medication, this symptom will
disappear and this problem will cease, by Allah’s leave.

The other party may have no knowledge of this issue and its
nature, so telling them may cause some confusion for which there is no need.

Whatever the case, we advise you to consult a specialist
doctor who can clarify the nature of your problem from a medical point of
view, and the extent to which it will affect your marriage, and your ability
to fulfil what is required of you of marital duties. If the problems that
you are suffering are likely to affect that, then you must inform the woman
to whom you propose, in one way or another, even if it is via some
trustworthy women among your mahrams and the like.

For more information, please see the answer to questions no.
103871 and 128221.

And Allah knows best.