Praying for the newborn to be righteous in various ways

There
is nothing wrong with your offering supplication for the newborn by saying,
“May Allah make her righteous, and make her grow in a good manner, and make
her kind to her parents.” Use of the present tense [in the Arabic original]
in these phrases refers to the future, in the sense that when she grows up
and reaches the age of maturity, she may be settled in the path of
righteousness, lead others in the path of righteousness and be kind to her
parents, as Ibn al-Warraaq (d. 381 AH) said in his book ‘Ilal an-Nahw
(1/563): the present tense may refer to two times (i.e., the present and the
future). And az-Zamakhshari (d. 538 AH – may Allah have mercy on him) said:
it may refer to the present and the future.

End
quote from al-Mufassal fi San‘at al-I‘raab, p. 321 

Moreover, no particular format for offering congratulations on the birth of
the newborn is proven in the Prophet’s Sunnah. Rather there is a report was
narrated by ‘Ali ibn al-Ja‘d in al-Musnad, p. 488, where he said:
al-Haytham ibn Jimaaz told me: A man said in the presence of al-Hasan:
Congratulations to the horseman. Al-Hasan said: What does congratulations to
the horseman mean? Perhaps he will own
cows and donkeys (not horses)! Rather say: May you give thanks to the
Bestower, may what He gave you be blessed, may (the newborn) reach maturity
and may he be kind to you. 

Its
isnaad is da‘eef (weak) because of al-Haytham ibn Jimaaz. It was classed as
da‘eef by Yahya ibn Ma‘een. Ahmad ibn Hanbal said: He was rejected by the
scholars. An-Nasaa’i said: He is matrook (rejected).

See:
Lisaan al-Mizaan, 8/352 

But
there is a corroborating report – which is somewhat weak – that was narrated
by Ibn ‘Asaakir in Tareekh Dimashq (59/276) via Mu‘aawiyah ibn
Muhammad al-Adhri, according to which Ahmad ibn Ibraaheem ibn Bakaar
al-Qurashi told them: Sa‘eed ibn Naseer told us: Katheer ibn Hishaam told
us: Kalthoom ibn Jawshan told us: A man came to al-Hasan… And he narrated
the report. 

However the basic principle concerning the wording of du‘aa’ (supplication)
outside prescribed acts of worship is that there are no restrictions, and
the one who is offering supplication may choose whatever supplication he
likes and whatever best suits his aim. The scholars regarded it as mustahabb
to offer supplication in the words narrated from al-Hasan al-Basri, as
mentioned by Imam an-Nawawi in al-Majmoo‘ (8/443) and in
al-Adhkaar (p. 289), and by Ibn Qudaamah in al-Mughni (9/464). 

They
also regarded it as mustahabb to offer supplication in the words narrated
from Ayyoob as-Sakhtiyaani (may Allah have mercy on him); when he offered
congratulations on the birth of a baby, he would say, “May Allah make him a
blessing to you and to the ummah of Muhammad.” Narrated by Ibn Abi’d-Dunya
in al-‘Iyaal (no. 202). He said: Khaalid ibn Khaddaash told us:
Hammaad ibn Zayd told us: Ayyoob used to … And he narrated the report. It
was also narrated by at-Tabaraani in ad-Du‘aa’ (1/294). 

This
format was also narrated from al-Hasan al-Basri with a hasan isnaad. That
was narrated by at-Tabaraani in ad-Du‘aa’ (p. 1243); its isnaad was
classed as hasan by the commentator on the book, Dr Muhammad al-Bukhaari. 

At-Tabaraani said: Yahya ibn ‘Uthmaan ibn Saalih told us: ‘Amr ibn ar-Rabee‘
ibn Taariq told us; as-Sirri ibn Yahya told us: A son was born to a man who
used to sit with al-Hasan, and another man congratulated him by saying:
Congratulations to the horseman. al-Hasan said: How do you know that he will
be a horseman? Perhaps he will be a carpenter, perhaps he will be a tailor.
He said: What should I say then? He said: “May Allah make him a blessing to
you and to the ummah of Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him).” 

We ask
Allah, may He be exalted, to make all the children of the Muslims a blessing
to their parents and to the ummah of Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him). 

And
Allah knows best.